Do you think complaining is going to do these guys any good?
When you tell yourself “I can’t do x, y, or z” what you’re doing is programming yourself for FAILURE. Your body is going to listen to what the brain tells it to do, and if you tell yourself enough that you can’t do something, pretty soon your brain is going to go “You know what, you’re right, you CAN’T do it” and your body will follow accordingly. I mentioned earlier that we are creatures of habit, so start developing the right habits instead of the wrong ones. If you’re an athlete or former athlete, think back to when you had an extremely tough practice or opponent coming up. Or a time when it was really hot, or really cold, or raining, whatever the case may be. When you suited up and went to that practice or game, did you say to yourself “Man it’s really hot out here, this is going to suck?” Well guess what, if you tell yourself that it’s going to suck, THEN IT’S GOING TO SUCK. Whatever you tell yourself is going to come true. Wouldn’t you be better off telling yourself how much you’re going to kick ass regardless of the conditions? Don’t let external factors and circumstances out of your control dictate your performance, be proactive and start thinking positively and you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel.
Ask yourself the right questions.
What do I mean by this? Well consider what I said earlier about programming yourself for success by not using negative phrases. The same thing applies to the questions that you ask yourself throughout the day. Some of this might hit close to home but if it does then I hope you can learn from it. Now let me first say that I’m as guilty as anyone else when it comes to this and sometimes I catch myself doing it way more than I’d like. But recognizing the problem is the first step in correcting it, and the more you notice yourself doing this the more you can begin to take the necessary steps towards fixing it.
Have you ever asked yourself something like “Why am I such an idiot?” or maybe “Why can’t I lose any weight?” or “Why can’t I find a good job?” or “Why can’t I make the team?”. Remember that your brain is your most powerful tool, and when you ask yourself a question you’re going to get a response whether you like it or not. When you ask yourself the wrong questions like the negative ones mentioned above (using the word CAN’T), you’re going to get a negative response. If you’re constantly asking yourself why you can’t lose weight, you’ll get answers like “Because I’m lazy, I can’t follow a good diet, I don’t have time to exercise,” etc., etc. Instead of asking yourself why you can’t do something, ask yourself HOW you CAN do it and you’ll be amazed at the answers you get.