When Pain Becomes the Norm
Pain and hurt are parts of life that each of us experience at one time or another. Some women experience an exorbitant amount of heartache. The source of the pain is irrelevant. The termination of the pain and it’s ability to become your “norm” is of the utmost important.
As women, in addition to our own troubles, we tend to “adopt” the pain and issues of our family members and friends. It’s in our nature. It’s almost like we can’t help it. This is especially true in regards to our children. Where they are concerned, their happiness is our happiness. Their pain, however, becomes our pain, only deeper. Then their is the pain of watching our parents age. It is heart-wrenching to watch the people who cared for us, because those in need of constant care and help. There is the pain from witnessing our closest friends hurt. Pain will be present regardless of who you are, regardless of where you live, regardless of how you live. It doesn’t have to be your shroud. It doesn’t have to be the ruler of your life.
How do you separate yourself from the pain? Where is the boundary? The short answer: fix what you can and let the rest take care of itself. That may be easier said than done, but in order to experience life as it’s meant to be lived, there has to be a cut-off point. This doesn’t mean that you give a half-hearted effort to assist. On the contrary, extend yourself and your time. Help in every possible way that you can. Be there for them, day or night. However, when you reach the point that you are losing sleep, have turned to emotional eating, are constantly distracted and can’t concentrate, you’ve gone too far. This applies to your own problems as well. The loss of sleep, the extra weight, the headaches and anxiety will create an entirely new beast to contend with. Every single problem that we encounter has a way of working itself out. Why add health woes to the list?
Life is meant to be enjoyed. Problems and pains are meant to strengthen us. They are not meant to drag us down and pull us apart. Don’t allow them to.