Rebuilding the Nest
In all of our lives, at one time or another, our personal space, our immediate surroundings, change. That change can occur when the children go off to college, after a divorce, a move to a new city or the death of a significant other. How that change affects you is totally up to you.
There will be a sense of emptiness, no doubt. There will spurts of loneliness. There may even be bouts of depression. These things are natural and are to be expected. They don’t, however, have to be the end of the road for you or your life. On the contrary, these changes can be the beginning of something new and different.
In a few months, my son will be off to college. Sooner than that, I will be divorced from his father. Initially, I fell into a depression that I didn’t see myself coming out of. I spent some weeks in that state of “I have no clue what I’m going to do now”. Eventually, I realized that I am facing a whole new set of years that can be shaped into anything I want them to be! You can to.
I will be returning to a career as a paralegal. I will become more involved in the community. I will become more active in my place of worship. These are things you can do to. What I expect will happen is that I will soon welcome the times when I find some “me” time.
Use the ending of the life events that will come your way as a segue to the things you’ve always wanted to do. Travel, visit, explore! Start marking things off your bucket list! Live your life!!